The grass is greener on the other side

          Have you ever felt this way about life? Another person’s life always seems rosier than your bleak little one. It has been quite a while since I felt that way. Someone very close to my heart told me the crux of having self-esteem is being happy the way you are. But is that attainable? Someone who is barely making ends meet will probably wish for all the money in the world while the person who has already got all the money in the world might be wishing for something else.

          Why is the grass always greener on the other side? Maybe the grass looked greener precisely because we are not on the other side to look at it. Perhaps if we were given a day to live another person’s life, every single tiny bit of it, we might end up preferring our own. Everyone tries to paint a perfect image of themselves to strangers, hence it will be easy to see the pretty sides of their lives. The biggest problem with looking at someone else’s life and envying them is that we only get to see bits and pieces of that life. There are simply too many things hidden from our view as the grass patch is far away.

          Being contented with life is the key ingredient to happiness. Instead of constantly looking over at the lawns of other people, we can try appreciating the beauty of our own. Nurture our own grass patches and make them beauties that we can grow to love.



  1. yy said,

    March 27, 2008 at 2:26 pm

    yup i agree with the grass patch analogy. we always see others as being better than us in every way, even when people around us accept us for who we are. we only see the perfection in others that we envy, but what about the imperfections? instead of constantly comparing ourselves to that classmate/colleague/neighbour who always seems to have everything, why not compare yourself with the cleaning lady at the hawker centre who has to work long hours but is barely making ends’ meet? 🙂

  2. Letchumi said,

    April 6, 2008 at 4:47 am

    I always have this tendency to compare myself with others, not in a bad way though. Its just a way of telling myself to work harder or i should not give up too soon. When there are times when i feel that i don’t own something or not as good as someone, i tend to tell myself that what i have in life at the moment is way more better than those people suffering in other poverty stricken countries. We all should learn to be grateful of what we have and stop comparing.

  3. stormycl0udz said,

    April 6, 2008 at 9:34 am

    true. there is this chinese saying that implies that being content with what you already have is the way to go. however, i’m sure for almost everyone out there, including myself, there is always this particular something else that we feel we have to attain. could it be due to social comparison? there is this “oh he/she has it. so i must also have it” mentality. i guess this greener grass theory is part of life. it is perhaps also the motivating factor which spurs us on to improve our own lives. =)

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